Sometimes I wake up in the morning with questions. Many times, a lot of them. Today, for example, these were rushing through the fog of looking for the coffee pot:
- Just because we decide not to drink that does not mean we think we are better than you.
- Just because we decide to encourage modesty in our lives that does not mean we are judging you.
- Just because we decide to refrain from an activity that does not mean we are looking down on you.
- Why is it that if we keep personal standards that are different from others we are considered judgmental and therefore we must think we are so much better and more spiritual?
- Why can’t we be as free to keep our standards of behavior as those that keep differing ones?
- Why does grace only seem to flow one way and that is toward indulgencing and not to those that choose restraint?
- If we are making personal choices to restrain, restrict or to not participate must that equate to judgment, condemning, and pride on our part?
- Why can’t we have our own convictions without others that hold differing ones reading our minds and telling us what we are thinking about them?
- The question must be asked as to who is judging whom in these situations?
If I messed up the “who” and “whom” thing, please don’t judge me; I am still learning proper English which has proved elusive, but the question is still valid. Who is engaging in judgment here?
Many have accused us over the years of thinking we are so much better than they were without ever taking the time to talk to us. Others have accused us of judging them when the truth is we were not even thinking about them or what they may or may not have been doing.
Because we chose home education, or to live on one income, or to invest in our family relationships, or courtship, or to not participate in many activities, or to start a different type church, or take your pick of our personal choices, we have been labeled as judgmental and we think we are so much better than everyone else.
Nothing could be further from the truth. We all stand by God’s grace and without Him, we don’t have a prayer. Romans 14:4 is an excellent passage to consider:
Who are you to pass judgment on the servant of another? It is before his own master that he stands or falls. And he will be upheld, for the Lord is able to make him stand.
Perhaps if we quit accusing each other and engaged in an actual discussion we would quit attempting to read each other’s minds and actually find out what they were really thinking.
Now there’s a thought to ponder.